Asked by Anonymous
Hey there anonymous ;)
Often, pansexuals say “hearts, not parts” but as far as I know, nobody loves someone for their body or their parts. Most people do indeed tend to love people’s personalities, however, pansexuals are sexually attracted to people regardless of genders.
Personally, I tend to be attracted to masculinity in any form, shape or size. (naturally, there are some exceptions)
I don’t see a problem with a pansexual having a gender preference. Sexuality tends to be quite fluid, changing with us as we evolve and age. If you notice you tend to be only attracted to one gender, you might have grown into a different sexuality.
Additionally, there are people that have sexual attractions to all genders yet only feel romantic attraction to a specific gender (example: heteroromantic pansexuals) and the same exists vice versa (example: panromantic heterosexual).
I would say don’t worry too much about the labels, just try to find your happiness :)
I really do not like titles. Titles are boxes. And boxes are cages. Cages are barriers. People are so insular now, because of cages read, boxes and things that go bump in the night. I am 64 years young pansexual woman, in love with life. I feel more free now and happier as well knowing that to love someone from the inside out, no matter the space they fill in life is not as kink up as I once thought, is grand!! And no matter what you believe in GOD, GODDESS, COSMIC ENERGY I think that this is THE POWERS final plan because it is gouged everyday and every way:
LOVE each other as you do yourself…. and so you love ME!
I wish all of you Love, Light, Life and Happiness! Liz
I wish people still dressed like this today.
I enjoy looking at these pictures. Not only necessarily for the fashion (although I would love to own some of the dresses) but because that was a time when being polite and respectful were common. I see it here and there nowadays - but I remain hopeful that someday it won’t be the minority, but the majority. Of course, this doesn’t mean I want all the previous norms and values - it means that after hearing all these wonderful stories of chivalry and decency from my grandparents, I hope to create and see similar situations.
With comments too great not to include. You should check the heck out of that webcomic series either way 8D
The comments on this are every bit as fabulous as the actual comic :D
This would be a lot easier than having to figure it out yourself
that would save confusion… a lot of confusion
Perry the pansexual penguin! <3
Asked by Anonymous
Hello darling, no need to uhm! ;)
Let me see if I can get this straight (love to use this pun in the LGBT+ community ;) ) - so you used to feel that you did not have any romantic feelings, however, could be attracted to all people. Now, you feel there are some demiromantic aspects you previously did not notice and want to know if there is a middle point/mish mesh of aromantic/demiromantic.
I think it is time for me to tell my experience and I reckon you will be able to relate. Personally, I am physically/sexually attracted to someone regardless of gender (pansexual behaviour), however, I do need to get to know someone to like them and to begin a physical relationship with them (demiromantic and demisexual behaviours). Who says you cannot be pan(demi)sexual? That’s what I call it at least, although I don’t really mention it to everyone I date because I think the moment the word “sex” is mentioned, the person begin to think about it (sort of like inception), so I just say that I like to take it slow.
Labels do not always mean the same to everyone, so as long as you know how you feel and hopefully manage to express it (whether in a label or with other words) - I reckon you will be more than okay.
If you have more questions, you know where to find me.
Asked by Anonymous
Thank you, I do try my best to be open minded. From the information you have shared, I get the impression that you regret announcing the initial label you identified with to your friends and worry that your friends will see you differently for changing your mind.
It is okay to be unsure about your sexuality. Labels make it easier to explain the way you feel to others, but there is no need to try and find one as quickly as you feel attraction. Sexuality is complex, at times it even has a sort of fluidity, changing as you change. I would say, focus on what you feel, rather than what you would be classified as. That part sort of comes to you naturally as you figure it out. Others may try to label you, but ultimately you decide your feelings and how you identify.
Most (if not all) friendships do not depend on your sexuality. If they accepted you as gay I don’t see why they wouldn’t accept you as questioning/figuring it out/anything else. Personally, I would probably try to figure it out on my own and not worry too much about them. Another option is to involve them in this process because they might really appreciate being part of that journey with you. I hope you find the right solution. If you have any more questions, you know where I am.
This episode the ladies of Cherry Bomb explore the topic of bisexuality in the lesbian community. Where does the “B” in LGBT fit in? And why is there often a negative stereotype related to the term? Tatum has a theory
Asked by Anonymous
Indeed, pansexual is often confused with other terms, especially panromantic.
As you mentioned, pansexuality is the ability to be physically attracted to people regardless of gender. I think a lot of pansexual people also identify as panromantic (the ability to love regardless of gender) although I don’t know about whether they are demisexual or not (emotional intimacy required for a physical attraction). Personally, I need to be emotionally intimate with someone to begin a physical relationship, however, I am attracted to people regardless of gender.
People vary and just like there are many types of heterosexuals, homosexuals and bisexuals (etc.), there are different types of pansexuals. On top of this, some people define pansexuality on its own whereas others see it synonymously with panromantic. Ultimately, it us up to you to decide what you want to call yourself (if you want a label at all that is). People will always have different definitions of concepts (whether that concept is love, happiness, success or pansexuality) and so ultimately it is up to you. How you do feel? How do you define pansexuality? Does that fit how you feel? It is important that you feel comfortable with yourself and however you define that.
Asked by fangirlingforfun
Hey hey :)
I just got these strong reactions recently after posting a comedian’s skit that was shared (192k shares and likes) which of course spread my message to thousands of people who may fall under the following categories: a) never heard of pansexuality to begin with b) may not have any contact with the LGBT+ community and c) may or may not be guided by religious convictions.
Indeed, this showed that some felt the need to express their disapproval or anger. And, although I do not get mad, it does lower my spirits so I really appreciate that you lift me up and say such kind words. You warm my heart.
Thank you and love you,
Asked by paige-sais-rawr
Thank you :) I really appreciate your kind words. Those strong negative comments stemmed from one very popular post, but right around the time I was working for my thesis deadline XP So I just took a while to focus on my thesis and also to get back to positive mode.
Thank you for helping me get there :*
I told you. All the men in my life die.
I’m not a man in your life, okay? You said so yourself. I’m a little shitpot.
God I fucking love her.
Miss Rosa was definitely up there for my favourite characters of season 2. She is so brilliant